Questions and answers about MeAndWho Club

MeAndWho Club is an AI-assisted matchmaker for verified adults in Bengaluru who want a serious relationship. You don’t browse or swipe. You answer a short set of questions and, if you like, talk with an AI matchmaker about what matters to you. When someone fits what you both want, we suggest an introduction. A chat opens only when you both say yes. See how it works.

MeAndWho Club has no feed to swipe and no profiles to browse: instead, we suggest a few introductions, each checked from both sides. You’re introduced only when you pass each other’s firm filters and you’re each in the other’s top 5 (currently). Every member has passed a live selfie check, each introduction says in plain words why we suggested it, and a chat opens only when you both say yes. See how we compare.

MeAndWho Club has no profile search and no inbox of interests: we suggest a few introductions, and a chat opens only when both people say yes. Your card shows only what you choose to share. Religion and caste are optional questions, never on your card, and count in matching only where someone has said they matter to them. Every member passes a live selfie check, and joining is free. Read our comparisons with other ways to meet someone.

Like a personal matchmaker, we learn what matters to you and suggest only a few people. The differences are these. You can see, edit or delete every note our AI suggests about you, fit is checked in both directions with the same fixed rules for everyone, and joining is free, with membership offered only once there are enough suitable people for you. A personal matchmaker may get to know you face to face, which we don’t. See AI matchmaking.

MeAndWho Club is for both marriage and dating, as long as you want something serious. One of the first questions asks what you’re looking for: “Marriage, ideally within the next two years”, “A long-term relationship that could lead to marriage”, “A long-term relationship, marriage isn’t the focus” or “Something serious, still working out the details”. It currently carries the most weight in matching. MeAndWho Club isn’t for casual dating or friendship. See who can join.

MeAndWho Club is run by Amrik Innovates (OPC) Private Limited, a company registered in Indore, Madhya Pradesh, India. You can write to ami@amrikinnovates.io for help, privacy questions or anything else, and our Grievance Officer’s contact details are on the support page. Read more about who runs MeAndWho Club or go to support.

MeAndWho Club is for adults 18 and over in Bengaluru, of every gender and orientation, who want a serious, committed relationship. You need an Indian (+91) mobile number for a one-time sign-in code, and a phone with a front camera for the live selfie check. Former members of our earlier matchmaking service can sign up with a code wherever they live. It isn’t for casual dating or friendship. See matchmaking in Bengaluru.

MeAndWho Club is getting ready to open in Bengaluru, first on Android through Google Play, with iPhone to follow. It isn’t in the app stores yet, and there is no fixed launch date. Get early access and we’ll let you know when it opens. Until then, you can read how it works.

Not yet: MeAndWho Club opens first on Android through Google Play, and the iPhone app comes later, with no date yet. Both are built from the same code, and the app is designed for phones rather than tablets. See when it opens to hear when it reaches your phone.

Only 4 questions are required: your gender, who you’d like to meet, the ages you’re open to and what you’re looking for right now. The current draft set has 23 short questions, one per screen, and most people see 22 of them. You can skip the rest, tap “Finish later”, or open “Why we ask” on any question. A skipped question never counts against you, unless someone has made it a dealbreaker. See how it works.

Yes, MeAndWho Club is open to adults of every gender and orientation from the start. You can choose Woman, Man or Non-binary, or describe your gender yourself and pick the group you’d like to be included in, and you can choose any mix of who you’d like to meet. Introductions happen only when both people are looking for someone like each other, and these answers are never shown on your card. See LGBTQ+ dating in Bengaluru.

Yes, you must be 18 or over to join MeAndWho Club, and your date of birth is one of the first things the app asks for; under-18s can’t continue. People you’re introduced to see your age, never your birthday. If you think someone may be under 18, report them: the account is suspended straight away while a person reviews it. See privacy and safety.

MeAndWho Club is in English. The questions, the app screens and the AI matchmaker all use English, and voice typing for longer answers is set up for Indian English. If you write to the AI matchmaker in another language, it is asked to reply in yours, but the rest of the app stays in English for now. See how the AI matchmaker works.

Our AI matchmaker has four jobs today: it asks optional follow-up questions, suggests short notes about you for you to confirm, writes the plain-language reason on each introduction, and suggests first-date ideas after you both say yes. It doesn’t calculate the match score, doesn’t decide who you meet and never chats for you. The conversation is optional, and the screen always tells you you’re talking to an AI. Read how our AI matchmaking works.

No, the AI conversation and the ChatGPT import are both optional, and you can start matchmaking without either. Agreeing to “AI help with your profile” is one of the consents needed to join, though, and our AI writes the “Why we suggested this” note on every introduction from the answers you both chose to share. Your match score never comes from the AI. See what the AI does and doesn’t do.

No, the AI doesn’t decide who you meet: matching runs on your answers and preferences using fixed rules, checked in both directions, and the AI doesn’t set the score. During our pilot a person reviews every introduction before it reaches you, and no chat opens unless you and the other person both say yes. The AI asks follow-up questions, suggests notes for you to confirm and writes the reason for each introduction. See how matching works.

No, we never send your name, phone number, photos, face pattern or ID details to the AI. Your most sensitive answers (your gender, who you’d like to meet, religion and caste) aren’t sent to it either. When it writes the reason for an introduction, it sees only the answers you both chose to share and which areas fit well, without names, ages or photos. Anything you type into the AI conversation yourself is read as you wrote it. See privacy and safety.

No, not unless you choose to keep it. “Remember my AI conversations” is off by default, so we delete each conversation when it ends. We keep only the notes it suggested, which you confirm, edit or delete on your profile. If you turn memory on, we keep your conversations so the AI doesn’t repeat itself, until you turn it off or delete your account. See privacy and safety.

Yes, you can paste in a summary from your own ChatGPT, and our AI turns it into suggested notes for your profile. It’s optional: copy our prompt into ChatGPT and paste back the summary it writes. Our prompt asks ChatGPT to leave out your health, religion, caste, sexuality, finances, politics, name and where you live or work. It’s text only, we delete the pasted text straight away, and nothing is used until you confirm it. See AI matchmaking.

Yes, your profile shows what you told us separately from what the AI understood, under “You told us”, “We interpreted this as” and “From your import”. For each note you can tap “That’s right”, rewrite it with “Not quite, edit”, turn off “Use for matching” or delete it. A note you haven’t confirmed is never shown to the person who checks introductions. Confirmed notes help the person who checks each introduction; they don’t change your match score. See AI matchmaking.

No, the AI never chats as you or for you, and it doesn’t read, write or suggest your messages. Chat opens only after you both say yes, and every message in it is written by one of you. The only AI help after a mutual yes is optional first-date ideas, which go only to the person who asked for them. See how chat works.

“Why we suggested this” is a short note, written by our AI, that says in plain words what you two have in common, and sometimes a difference worth talking about. It uses only the answers you both chose to share and the areas where you fit well. A note that mentions a score or a percentage is thrown away, and the AI is told never to guess about either of you or promise it will work out. See AI matchmaking.

Matching runs on your own answers, using fixed rules in both directions. First come firm filters: you each have to be someone the other wants to meet, inside each other’s age range, and clear each other’s dealbreakers (at most 3 each). Then each pair is scored from both sides and the two are combined, so a weak fit on either side pulls the pair’s score down. You’re introduced only if that score clears a minimum, you’re each in the other’s top 5 (currently) and, during our pilot, a person approves. See how matching works.

There’s no fixed number: we introduce you only when there’s someone who fits you both ways, so some weeks there may be none. You’ll get at most 3 new introductions a week and have at most 2 waiting for your answer at once (current settings), so nobody is shown too often. We can’t promise a match, a date or a relationship. See how it works.

Usually it’s because we haven’t yet found someone who fits you both ways, or your pool of suitable, verified people is still small. Your Home screen always shows where things stand, such as “Building your pool” or “An introduction is being reviewed”, and while your pool is building it names the preference narrowing it most. Changing it is entirely up to you. Paying members who go 21 days without an introduction get an honest update on their pool. See how it works.

You currently have 7 days to answer each introduction with “Yes, introduce us” or “No, thanks”, and the card shows the date to answer by. If you haven’t both answered by then, the introduction expires and no chat opens. You don’t need to give a reason for saying no, and the other person isn’t told. See how it works.

When you both say yes, your chat opens. Neither of you finds out the other said yes until you both have; then you both see “You both said yes” and can start a text chat in the app. You can also ask for first-date ideas. Nothing else can open a chat: it always takes two yeses, which is what we mean by double opt-in. See how it works.

They see your first name or nickname, your age, the photos you chose for your card, the answers you chose to share, your badge (“Passed a live selfie check that matches their photos”) and the note on why we suggested you. Nothing else: never your phone number, birthday, area of Bengaluru, gender, who you’d like to meet, religion, caste or your AI conversation. Every shareable answer stays off your card until you turn it on. You see the same about them, photos included, before you decide. See privacy and safety.

No. If you tap “No, thanks”, they aren’t told: their card just says “This introduction has ended.”, the same as when one expires. You don’t have to give a reason, and the two of you are never suggested to each other again. See what happens when you both say yes.

Chat opens only after you both say yes, and it’s text only, in the app, in real time. Phone numbers aren’t shared, so you can keep personal details private until you’re comfortable. Press and hold any message to report it, or report or block from the chat at any time. Our AI never reads or writes your messages, and chats you already have stay open if you pause. See privacy and safety.

Yes, once you both say yes, you can tap “Suggest some ideas” for up to three first-date ideas in public, daytime-friendly places, with safety tips. The ideas are based only on the answers you both share, and the AI is told never to suggest a private home, a hotel or somewhere late-night or secluded. Nothing is sent to the other person, and the AI doesn’t book anything or message them. See how to stay safe.

Every member passes two checks before matchmaking: a phone check with a one-time code and a live selfie check of about 20 seconds. One face can hold only one account, and at least one of your photos must match your selfie. These checks are enforced on our server, not just in the app. Verification shows someone is a real person with one account; it doesn’t tell you how they’ll behave. See how verification works.

The live selfie check shows you’re a real person who is present and that you have only one account, and at least one photo on every introduction card must match that face. You follow an oval on screen for about 20 seconds; good light helps, and sunglasses, hats and masks need to come off. If it doesn’t work, you can try again, up to a daily limit. If it’s held for a person to look at, for example because a face looks very like another member’s, you can appeal in the app. See verification.

No, we don’t keep the video or any selfie images, and the check is set up so that our provider, Amazon Web Services, keeps none either. We do keep a face pattern, which is a set of numbers rather than a photo, to stop duplicate accounts and to check your photos are you. It is deleted when you withdraw that consent or delete your account. See verification.

No, one face can hold only one account: when you verify, your face pattern is checked against existing members. If it looks like someone else’s, a person reviews it before anything happens to either account. Together with the rule that one of your photos must match your selfie, this makes fake and duplicate profiles harder to create. See verification.

An optional ID badge through DigiLocker is built but not switched on yet. When it is, your card can show “Age 18+ confirmed with a government ID” once we confirm, from your DigiLocker record, that you’re 18 or over, that your date of birth matches the one you gave us and that the ID photo matches your selfie. It confirms age only, not how someone behaves. See verification.

No, joining needs an Indian mobile number and a live selfie check, not Aadhaar or any other ID. Aadhaar only comes in for the optional ID badge through DigiLocker, which isn’t switched on yet. Even then, we would read only your date of birth and photo, never store your Aadhaar number or the document, and end the DigiLocker access straight after. See verification.

Add 2 to 6 photos, and at least one must clearly show your face and match your selfie check. Photos are checked automatically, and explicit or intimate images, violence, disturbing images and hate symbols are rejected; swimwear is fine. You choose which photos appear on your introduction card, and the card must include one that matches your selfie. We re-save every photo, which removes hidden details such as where it was taken. See verification.

MeAndWho Club asks about religion and caste or community only as optional questions, and like your gender and who you’d like to meet, they need a separate consent for sensitive answers. They’re never shown on your card or sent to the AI, and the AI is told never to ask about or record them. They count in matching only where someone says they matter (“I’d prefer the same” or “Must be the same”), and you can delete them at any time. See privacy and safety.

Every answer is private until you choose to share it. Your gender, who you’d like to meet, religion, caste and area of Bengaluru can never appear on your card. Only 8 answers can ever be shared (what you’re looking for, languages, diet, drinking, smoking, education, work and interests), and each one stays off until you turn it on. Sensitive answers are used only to find people who fit you both ways. See privacy and safety.

No, notifications never name the other person or quote a message. They say things like “You have a new introduction to look at.” or “You have a new message.”, and you see the details only once you open the app. They are delivered through a push service outside India (Expo), which receives this general text and your device’s push token, never names or message text. See privacy and safety.

Our database, your photos, your face pattern and our logs are hosted by Amazon Web Services in India, in Mumbai, with backups in Hyderabad. This website is hosted by Vercel, whose servers may be outside India. A few services work outside India: sign-in codes (Google Firebase), push notifications (Expo) and, at present, the AI matchmaker (Anthropic). We don’t show ads, use advertising trackers or sell your data. Our privacy policy lists each provider and what it handles.

Some of it is: at present, the AI matchmaker’s work is processed outside India by Anthropic, which makes Claude, the AI we use. That covers your non-sensitive answers and what you write if you use the AI conversation, any summary you paste, and the shared answers used for introduction notes and date ideas. Sign-in codes and push notifications also use services outside India. Our database, photos, face patterns and logs are in India. We plan to move AI processing to India, but it hasn’t happened yet. See the privacy policy.

Yes, you can get a copy of your data in the app: go to Account, then Privacy and my data, and tap “Get a copy of my data”. You get your account details, consents, profile, photos, any AI conversations you chose to keep, introductions with your own decisions, the messages you sent, your feedback and your membership records, as text you can save or share. Other people’s data, such as their messages, is left out. See the privacy policy.

Delete it in the app under Account, then Privacy and my data, and deletion starts straight away. It removes your profile, answers, photos, face pattern and messages, except messages in a chat that was reported, which are kept hidden as safety evidence. We also keep safety reports, billing records and security logs that hold IDs and technical details such as IP addresses (never your answers or messages), for legal, tax and security reasons, and backups age out within 35 days. Deleting doesn’t cancel a store subscription. If you can’t use the app, email ami@amrikinnovates.io. See delete your account.

Tap “Report or block” on an introduction or “Report” in a chat, or press and hold a single message to report it. Reporting also blocks the person, and they aren’t told who reported them. If you only want to block, choose “Just block them”: your chat closes and you’ll never be introduced again. Every report is acknowledged straight away, and we aim to close it within 7 days. See privacy and safety.

A person on our team reviews every report, records a reason and decides what to do, from no action to a warning, restriction, suspension or ban. For threats, intimate images, impersonation or someone who may be under 18, the account is suspended the moment you report, and we aim to review it within 12 hours. Harassment, scams and hate remove them from new introductions at once, and we aim to review those within 24 hours. The person reported can appeal. See privacy and safety.

Call 112, India’s emergency number, straight away. Then report it in the app under “I’m in danger right now”: the app shows 112 first, the other person’s account is suspended at once, and our team is alerted by email immediately. You can also find 112 in the app under Account, Safety centre. See privacy and safety.

Don’t send it, and report them under “Asking for money or a scam”. They’re removed from new introductions straight away, and we aim to review the report within 24 hours; if someone else already has a serious report about them still open, their account is suspended. Asking for money breaks our community guidelines, and reporting also blocks them for you. See privacy and safety.

Report anything about another member in the app, or write to ami@amrikinnovates.io about anything else. For formal grievances, contact our Grievance Officer: Amrik Singh Khalsa (singhamrikkhalsa@gmail.com), also named in the app under Account, Safety centre. They aim to respond within 7 days. You can also appeal a suspension, restriction or held verification in the app: a person decides and gives you a written reason, and we aim to do that within 7 days. See support.

Joining is free: signing up, verifying, answering the questions and talking with the AI matchmaker. A paid membership is offered only once at least 15 suitable, verified people are looking for someone like you (a current setting), and introductions stay free for 14 days after it is first offered. The price is shown in your app store before you buy, and you can cancel any time. See membership.

The price isn’t final yet, and you’ll always see it in Google Play or the App Store before you buy. There are two plans, monthly or every 3 months, both renewing automatically until you cancel. You pay nothing until membership is offered, which happens only once there are enough suitable people for you. Membership covers introductions approved by a person and chat with anyone who accepts you back. See membership.

When membership is first offered to you, introductions stay free for 14 more days. The days count from that first offer, whether or not an introduction arrives in that time. After that, new introductions need a membership, and chats you already have stay open. You’re never charged unless you choose a plan in your app store. See membership.

No, membership pays for the matchmaking service, not an outcome, so there are no refunds when no introduction happens. We can’t promise a match, a date or a relationship, and the membership screen says so before you pay. You can cancel any time and keep access to the end of the period. Other refund requests follow Google Play or App Store policy, because they handle payment. See membership.

Yes, membership renews automatically at the end of each period until you cancel, and we send you a reminder a few days before it renews: “Your membership renews in a few days. You can cancel any time in your store settings.” Billing is handled by Google Play or the App Store, so renewal follows your store account. See how to cancel.

Cancel any time in your Google Play or App Store subscriptions, in as few taps as it took to subscribe. You keep access until the end of the period you’ve paid for. Pausing matchmaking or deleting your account doesn’t cancel a store subscription, so cancel in your store if you want to stop paying. See membership.

Yes, you can pause new introductions at any time with “Pause matchmaking” on the Home screen, and tap “Resume matchmaking” whenever you’re ready. Chats you already have stay open, and you aren’t suggested to anyone while you’re paused. Pausing doesn’t pause membership billing: to stop paying, cancel in your Google Play or App Store subscriptions. See membership.

A matchmaker only works when there are enough suitable, verified people near each other, so we’re starting in one city: Bengaluru (Bangalore), a large city with many young professionals. Starting in one city means introductions are to people you can realistically meet, and membership is offered only once there are enough suitable people for you. When it opens, it will be open to anyone 18 or over in Bengaluru who wants something serious. See matchmaking in Bengaluru.

Not yet, and it hasn’t opened in Bengaluru yet either: when it opens, MeAndWho Club will be only for people in Bengaluru, and signing in needs an Indian (+91) mobile number. We plan to open in more cities later, choosing the next one by where people are waiting, but there is no date. Get early access and tell us your city. Former members of our earlier service can sign up with their code from anywhere and ask to hear when we open in their city. See matchmaking in Bengaluru.

Your part of Bengaluru usually matters only a little, and only if you tell us. An optional question asks which part of the city you live in (North, South, East, West, Central or the outskirts) and which areas you’d happily travel to for a date, because meeting is easier when the commute is reasonable. Location currently counts for less in matching than what you’re looking for or your values, a skipped answer never counts against you unless the other person has made area a dealbreaker, and your area is never shown to anyone. See matchmaking in Bengaluru.

Yes, former members can rejoin: sign up, then enter the code from your email or message under Account, Members of the previous service. Choose how to take part: in Bengaluru if you live there or are moving there, or ask us to tell you when we open in your city. Former members living outside Bengaluru are never charged; in Bengaluru, membership works as it does for everyone. You can also invite 2 friends in Bengaluru, though a friend doesn’t need a code to join. See for former members.