Needed to join, currently
- Your account
- Live selfie check
- Who you want to meet
- Matchmaking
- AI help with your profile
- Your introduction card
Turning one of these off takes you out of matchmaking.
How does MeAndWho Club handle privacy and safety?
Your answers stay private until you choose to share them. You can report or block anyone, at any time.
In short
No app can make meeting a stranger risk-free, but MeAndWho Club is built to make it safer: every member passes a live selfie check, nobody can browse or search for you, and during our pilot a person checks every introduction. Your answers stay off your introduction card until you choose to share them, and your gender, who you’d like to meet, religion, caste and area of Bengaluru never appear on it. You can report or block someone from any introduction or chat, they aren’t told who reported them, and a person reviews every report.
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What stays private on MeAndWho Club?
Almost everything you tell us. An introduction shows only your first name or nickname, your age, the photos you pick, the answers you choose to share and your verification badge.
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- Every answer stays off your card until you turn it on. In the current questions, only 8 answers can be shared at all: what you’re looking for, languages, diet, drinking, smoking, education, work and interests.
- Never on your card: your gender, who you’d like to meet, your religion, your caste or community, your area of Bengaluru, your private answers, your AI notes or your phone number.
- We show your age, never your birthday, and we don’t ask for your surname.
- There is no feed and no profile search. Your card is seen only by people we introduce you to and by the person who checks introductions.
- If you say no to an introduction, they aren’t told. They only find out if you both say yes.
Do you have to agree to everything at once?
No. Each use of your data has its own short notice and its own yes.
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There is no “agree to all” button, and you can change your choices any time under Account, in Privacy and my data.
Optional
- ID badge (once it is switched on)
- ChatGPT import
- Remember my AI conversations
- Feedback after introductions
- Product research
Saying no to any of these doesn’t take you out of matchmaking.
Is my caste or religion shown to anyone?
No. Both are optional, never shown on your card, and caste is never shown to anyone.
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- Like your gender and who you’d like to meet, they are sensitive answers, covered by their own consent and used only to find people who fit you both.
- They count in matching only where someone has said they matter, with “I’d prefer the same” or “Must be the same”. Otherwise they make no difference.
- These answers are never sent to our AI, and it is told never to ask about them. If you mention them yourself in the AI conversation, it is told not to keep a note of it.
- You can change or delete these answers at any time.
The same care goes for the rest of what you tell us. See what we ask, question by question.
What does the AI see, and what does it never see?
It is never sent your name, phone number, photos or your answers about gender, who you’d like to meet, religion or caste.
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Our AI matchmaker is Claude, made by Anthropic. It reads your non-sensitive answers and what you choose to tell it.
What it reads
- Your non-sensitive answers to our questions.
- What you write in the AI conversation, if you choose to have one.
- A summary you paste from your own ChatGPT, if you choose to.
- For introductions and first-date ideas, only the answers both of you chose to share.
What it never sees
- Your name, phone number or photos.
- Your face pattern or any ID details.
- Your answers about gender, who you’d like to meet, religion or caste.
- Your chats with other people. It never chats as you or for you.
- Your AI conversation is deleted when it ends, unless you turn on “Remember my AI conversations”, which is off by default.
- A ChatGPT summary you paste is never stored: we keep only the suggestions, and none is used until you confirm it.
- At present, the AI’s work is processed outside India by Anthropic. We plan to move it to India, but that hasn’t happened yet.
Will notifications show names or messages on my lock screen?
No. Notifications never name the other person or quote a message.
See every notification text
You see the details only once you open the app. These are the only notification texts, word for word, each under the title “MeAndWho Club”:
- “You have a new introduction to look at.”
- “You both said yes. Your chat is open.”
- “You have a new message.”
- “Here’s an update on your matchmaking.”
- “There’s an update on something you reported.”
- “Your membership renews in a few days. You can cancel any time in your store settings.”
Where is my data stored?
In India, by Amazon Web Services in Mumbai, with backups in Hyderabad.
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That covers our database, your photos, your face pattern and our logs. Three services work outside India: sign-in codes, push notifications and, at present, our AI matchmaker.
| Service | What it does | Where |
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| Amazon Web Services | Hosting, the database, photo storage, the live selfie check, your face pattern and photo checks | India: Mumbai, with backups in Hyderabad |
| Anthropic | Our AI matchmaker, Claude: your non-sensitive answers, AI conversation replies, a summary you paste and shared answers | Outside India, at present |
| Google Firebase Authentication | Sign-in codes, which means it handles your phone number | Outside India |
| Expo | Delivering notifications: your device’s push token and the general notification text | Outside India |
| Setu | The DigiLocker connection for the optional ID badge, once it is switched on | India |
| Google Play and the App Store | Subscriptions and payments, under their own privacy policies | Their own locations |
Payments go through Google Play or the App Store, so we never see your card or UPI details. The full list, with what each service receives, is in our privacy policy.
Does MeAndWho Club sell my data or show ads?
No. We don’t show ads and we don’t sell your data.
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The app has no advertising or analytics trackers, and we don’t use your data to track you across other apps and websites. Our website counts visits only in daily totals, without cookies and without identifying you. See the privacy policy.
The club is paid for by membership, and only once there are enough suitable people for you. See how membership and billing work.
Can I get a copy of my data, correct it or delete it?
Yes, yourself, in the app under Account, in Privacy and my data.
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Get a copy of your data
Tap “Get a copy of my data” for your account details, consents, profile, photos, any AI conversations you chose to keep, introductions with your own decisions, the messages you sent, your feedback, appeals and membership records. Other people’s data is left out.
Correct it
Change any answer at any time, and confirm, rewrite or delete every note our AI suggested. Nothing it suggests is used until you confirm it.
Pause
Pause matchmaking from your Home screen to stop new introductions, and resume whenever you like. Chats you already have stay open. Pausing doesn’t stop a paid membership: to stop paying, cancel in your app store.
Delete your account
Deletion starts straight away and removes your profile, answers, photos, face pattern and messages, except messages in a chat that was reported, which are kept hidden as safety evidence. Safety reports, billing records and security logs that hold IDs and technical details such as IP addresses (never your answers or messages) are kept, with restricted access, for legal, tax and security reasons. How to delete your account.
Is MeAndWho Club safe for women?
No app can promise safety, but nobody can reach you unless you both say yes.
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There is no feed to be found in, no search, and no messages from strangers.
- Everyone passes a phone check and a live selfie check, and one face can hold only one account.
- A chat opens only after you both say yes, and we never share your phone number.
- Your area of Bengaluru is never shown, and notifications stay discreet.
- Threats, intimate images, impersonation or someone who may be under 18 get the account suspended the moment you report it.
The same protections apply to every member, of every gender and orientation. No app can make meeting a stranger risk-free, so meet in public and trust your instincts.
How do I report or block someone?
Tap “Report or block” on an introduction or “Report” in a chat. They aren’t told who reported them.
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You can also press and hold a single message to report it. Reporting also blocks them.
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Choose what happened
Pick the reason that fits, from “I’m in danger right now” to “Something else”, and add details if you want to. The screen says: “They won’t be told who reported them.”
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It’s acknowledged straight away
The app replies at once: “We’ve received your report and blocked this person for you. We’ll review it and close it by” a date no more than 7 days away. Your chat with them closes.
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Or just block them
No reason needed. Choose “Just block them”: “You’ve blocked this person. Your chat is closed and we’ll never introduce you again.”
What happens after you report someone?
A person on our team reviews it, and we aim to close every report within 7 days.
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Something happens the moment you report, depending on how serious it is. Then the reviewer records a reason and decides what to do.
| How serious | Reasons you can choose | What happens at once | We aim to review it |
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| Danger right now | “I’m in danger right now” | The app shows 112 first. Their account is suspended and their messages in that chat hidden, and our team is alerted by email at once. | Within 12 hours |
| Severe | “Threats of violence”, “Sharing or threatening to share intimate images”, “Pretending to be someone else”, “May be under 18” | Their account is suspended and their messages in that chat hidden, and our team is alerted by email at once. | Within 12 hours |
| Serious | “Harassment or abuse”, “Asking for money or a scam”, “Hateful messages” | They are removed from new introductions. If another member’s serious report about them is still open, their account is suspended instead. | Within 24 hours |
| Other conduct | “Inappropriate messages”, “Misleading profile”, “Something else” | They are blocked for you, as with every report. | Within 7 days, when we close it |
- Every report also blocks the person for you, so you’re never introduced again. A person makes every decision, from no action to a warning, a restriction, a suspension or a ban.
- The person reviewing a report sees the reported person’s messages in that chat, not yours, and every time they open it is recorded. Messages in a reported chat are kept as safety evidence, with restricted access.
- When a report is closed, you get a notification: “There’s an update on something you reported.” We don’t share what happened to the other person.
What should I do if I’m in danger?
Call 112, India’s emergency number, straight away.
Then report it in the app under “I’m in danger right now”. The app shows 112 first, the other person’s account is suspended at once, and our team is alerted by email immediately. You can also find a “Call 112” button in the app under Account, Safety centre.
How do I stay safe on a first date?
Meet somewhere public, get there on your own and tell a friend where you’ll be.
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Once you both say yes, you can ask the app for up to three first-date ideas in public places that suit a daytime meeting, and every set of ideas comes with these four tips, word for word.
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Meet somewhere public and busy, and get there and back on your own.
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Tell a friend where you’re going and when you expect to be back.
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Keep the chat in the app until you feel comfortable sharing your number.
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Leave whenever you want to. If something feels wrong, use Report in the app, and call 112 in an emergency.
Chat in the app is text only, and we never share your phone number. Keep personal details private until you’re comfortable. Read what happens after you both say yes.
What are the community guidelines?
Eight rules that apply to every member, in the app’s Safety centre.
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They sit under the line “For adults who want something serious.”
Be who you are.
Use your own photos and your own name or nickname. Don’t pretend to be someone else, and don’t create more than one account.
Be 18 or over.
If we learn someone is under 18, we close the account.
Be respectful.
No harassment, threats, insults or hateful messages about anyone’s religion, caste, gender, sexuality, disability or background.
Keep it consensual.
Never send or ask for intimate images, and never share anyone’s images or messages without their permission. We act on this straight away.
Don’t ask for money.
Never ask a match for money, gifts, investments or financial details. Report anyone who does.
Keep it honest.
Answer our questions truthfully. Your matches are relying on what you tell us.
Keep personal details private until you’re ready.
Chat in the app first. Share your number, address or workplace only when you’re comfortable.
Meet safely.
Meet in a public place, get there on your own, and tell a friend where you’ll be.
If someone breaks them, we may warn them, stop new introductions, suspend the account or close it for good. The guidelines are a draft, pending review, and sit alongside our terms of use.
What if you think we got it wrong?
You can appeal in the app, even while your account is suspended.
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A person decides and tells you why, and we aim to do that within 7 days.
Appeals cover a suspension, a restriction on new introductions, or a live selfie check that was held for review. If an appeal about a held check succeeds, you can take the check again.
How do I make a complaint?
Report anything about another member in the app, or write to ami@amrikinnovates.io about anything else.
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For formal grievances, our Grievance Officer is Amrik Singh Khalsa (singhamrikkhalsa@gmail.com), also named in the app under Account, Safety centre. We aim to respond to grievances within 7 days. See how to get help and reach the Grievance Officer.
Is MeAndWho Club built for India’s privacy law?
It is designed around India’s Digital Personal Data Protection Act, 2023.
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That means a separate consent for each use, data you can see, correct and delete, and a Grievance Officer you can write to.
Our privacy policy and terms of use are drafts, pending review by Indian counsel, and we’ll update this page when they are final.
Questions about privacy and safety
Do I have to be 18 to join?
Yes, you must be 18 or over to join MeAndWho Club, and your date of birth is one of the first things the app asks for; under-18s can’t continue. People you’re introduced to see your age, never your birthday. If you think someone may be under 18, report them: the account is suspended straight away while a person reviews it. See privacy and safety.
Can the AI see my name, phone number or photos?
No, we never send your name, phone number, photos, face pattern or ID details to the AI. Your most sensitive answers (your gender, who you’d like to meet, religion and caste) aren’t sent to it either. When it writes the reason for an introduction, it sees only the answers you both chose to share and which areas fit well, without names, ages or photos. Anything you type into the AI conversation yourself is read as you wrote it. See privacy and safety.
Is my conversation with the AI matchmaker saved?
No, not unless you choose to keep it. “Remember my AI conversations” is off by default, so we delete each conversation when it ends. We keep only the notes it suggested, which you confirm, edit or delete on your profile. If you turn memory on, we keep your conversations so the AI doesn’t repeat itself, until you turn it off or delete your account. See privacy and safety.
What does the other person see about me?
They see your first name or nickname, your age, the photos you chose for your card, the answers you chose to share, your badge (“Passed a live selfie check that matches their photos”) and the note on why we suggested you. Nothing else: never your phone number, birthday, area of Bengaluru, gender, who you’d like to meet, religion, caste or your AI conversation. Every shareable answer stays off your card until you turn it on. You see the same about them, photos included, before you decide. See privacy and safety.
How does chat work on MeAndWho Club?
Chat opens only after you both say yes, and it’s text only, in the app, in real time. Phone numbers aren’t shared, so you can keep personal details private until you’re comfortable. Press and hold any message to report it, or report or block from the chat at any time. Our AI never reads or writes your messages, and chats you already have stay open if you pause. See privacy and safety.
Does MeAndWho Club help plan a first date?
Yes, once you both say yes, you can tap “Suggest some ideas” for up to three first-date ideas in public, daytime-friendly places, with safety tips. The ideas are based only on the answers you both share, and the AI is told never to suggest a private home, a hotel or somewhere late-night or secluded. Nothing is sent to the other person, and the AI doesn’t book anything or message them. See how to stay safe.
How does verification work on MeAndWho Club?
Every member passes two checks before matchmaking: a phone check with a one-time code and a live selfie check of about 20 seconds. One face can hold only one account, and at least one of your photos must match your selfie. These checks are enforced on our server, not just in the app. Verification shows someone is a real person with one account; it doesn’t tell you how they’ll behave. See how verification works.
Do you keep my selfie video?
No, we don’t keep the video or any selfie images, and the check is set up so that our provider, Amazon Web Services, keeps none either. We do keep a face pattern, which is a set of numbers rather than a photo, to stop duplicate accounts and to check your photos are you. It is deleted when you withdraw that consent or delete your account. See verification.
Can someone have more than one account?
No, one face can hold only one account: when you verify, your face pattern is checked against existing members. If it looks like someone else’s, a person reviews it before anything happens to either account. Together with the rule that one of your photos must match your selfie, this makes fake and duplicate profiles harder to create. See verification.
Do I need Aadhaar to join MeAndWho Club?
No, joining needs an Indian mobile number and a live selfie check, not Aadhaar or any other ID. Aadhaar only comes in for the optional ID badge through DigiLocker, which isn’t switched on yet. Even then, we would read only your date of birth and photo, never store your Aadhaar number or the document, and end the DigiLocker access straight after. See verification.
Does MeAndWho Club ask about caste or religion?
MeAndWho Club asks about religion and caste or community only as optional questions, and like your gender and who you’d like to meet, they need a separate consent for sensitive answers. They’re never shown on your card or sent to the AI, and the AI is told never to ask about or record them. They count in matching only where someone says they matter (“I’d prefer the same” or “Must be the same”), and you can delete them at any time. See privacy and safety.
Which of my answers are kept private?
Every answer is private until you choose to share it. Your gender, who you’d like to meet, religion, caste and area of Bengaluru can never appear on your card. Only 8 answers can ever be shared (what you’re looking for, languages, diet, drinking, smoking, education, work and interests), and each one stays off until you turn it on. Sensitive answers are used only to find people who fit you both ways. See privacy and safety.
Will notifications show names or messages on my lock screen?
No, notifications never name the other person or quote a message. They say things like “You have a new introduction to look at.” or “You have a new message.”, and you see the details only once you open the app. They are delivered through a push service outside India (Expo), which receives this general text and your device’s push token, never names or message text. See privacy and safety.
Where is my data stored?
Our database, your photos, your face pattern and our logs are hosted by Amazon Web Services in India, in Mumbai, with backups in Hyderabad. This website is hosted by Vercel, whose servers may be outside India. A few services work outside India: sign-in codes (Google Firebase), push notifications (Expo) and, at present, the AI matchmaker (Anthropic). We don’t show ads, use advertising trackers or sell your data. Our privacy policy lists each provider and what it handles.
Is my data processed outside India?
Some of it is: at present, the AI matchmaker’s work is processed outside India by Anthropic, which makes Claude, the AI we use. That covers your non-sensitive answers and what you write if you use the AI conversation, any summary you paste, and the shared answers used for introduction notes and date ideas. Sign-in codes and push notifications also use services outside India. Our database, photos, face patterns and logs are in India. We plan to move AI processing to India, but it hasn’t happened yet. See the privacy policy.
Can I get a copy of my data?
Yes, you can get a copy of your data in the app: go to Account, then Privacy and my data, and tap “Get a copy of my data”. You get your account details, consents, profile, photos, any AI conversations you chose to keep, introductions with your own decisions, the messages you sent, your feedback and your membership records, as text you can save or share. Other people’s data, such as their messages, is left out. See the privacy policy.
How do I delete my account?
Delete it in the app under Account, then Privacy and my data, and deletion starts straight away. It removes your profile, answers, photos, face pattern and messages, except messages in a chat that was reported, which are kept hidden as safety evidence. We also keep safety reports, billing records and security logs that hold IDs and technical details such as IP addresses (never your answers or messages), for legal, tax and security reasons, and backups age out within 35 days. Deleting doesn’t cancel a store subscription. If you can’t use the app, email ami@amrikinnovates.io. See delete your account.
How do I report or block someone?
Tap “Report or block” on an introduction or “Report” in a chat, or press and hold a single message to report it. Reporting also blocks the person, and they aren’t told who reported them. If you only want to block, choose “Just block them”: your chat closes and you’ll never be introduced again. Every report is acknowledged straight away, and we aim to close it within 7 days. See privacy and safety.
What happens after I report someone?
A person on our team reviews every report, records a reason and decides what to do, from no action to a warning, restriction, suspension or ban. For threats, intimate images, impersonation or someone who may be under 18, the account is suspended the moment you report, and we aim to review it within 12 hours. Harassment, scams and hate remove them from new introductions at once, and we aim to review those within 24 hours. The person reported can appeal. See privacy and safety.
What should I do if I’m in danger?
Call 112, India’s emergency number, straight away. Then report it in the app under “I’m in danger right now”: the app shows 112 first, the other person’s account is suspended at once, and our team is alerted by email immediately. You can also find 112 in the app under Account, Safety centre. See privacy and safety.
What if someone asks me for money?
Don’t send it, and report them under “Asking for money or a scam”. They’re removed from new introductions straight away, and we aim to review the report within 24 hours; if someone else already has a serious report about them still open, their account is suspended. Asking for money breaks our community guidelines, and reporting also blocks them for you. See privacy and safety.
How do I make a complaint or raise a grievance?
Report anything about another member in the app, or write to ami@amrikinnovates.io about anything else. For formal grievances, contact our Grievance Officer: Amrik Singh Khalsa (singhamrikkhalsa@gmail.com), also named in the app under Account, Safety centre. They aim to respond within 7 days. You can also appeal a suspension, restriction or held verification in the app: a person decides and gives you a written reason, and we aim to do that within 7 days. See support.