How MeAndWho Club works, step by step

Joining is free, and every step is built so that an introduction only reaches you when it looks right for both of you.

1. Join and verify: your phone number, your age, your consents, your name and a live selfie check.
2. Tell us what matters: short questions, how much each preference matters, and 2 to 6 photos.
3. Check what we understood: your answers, an optional AI conversation or ChatGPT import, and any notes from them.
4. Matchmaking: plain statuses on your Home screen while we look.
5. How introductions are chosen: fixed rules in both directions, then a person checks.
6. Your introduction: their photos, the answers they share and why we suggested them.
7. Both say yes, then talk: 7 days to answer, a private chat, first-date ideas and safety tools.
8. If nothing arrives, and how to pause or delete your account.

You can stop at any point and the app picks up where you left off.

1. Sign in with your mobile number

   Enter your Indian mobile number (+91) and the 6-digit code we text you. Your number isn’t shown to anyone. Sign-in is handled by Firebase Authentication, run by Google, and we don’t store your number ourselves.

2. Confirm you’re 18 or over

   Tell us your birthday once. You need to be 18 or over to join, and people only ever see your age, never your birthday.

3. Agree to each use of your information separately

   There is no “agree to all” button. Each use of your information has its own short notice and its own yes. Six are currently needed to join: your account, the live selfie check, who you want to meet, matchmaking, AI help with your profile and your introduction card. The rest, such as keeping your AI conversations, are optional, and you can change them any time under Account, in Privacy and my data.

   The notice for AI help says our AI matchmaker is Claude, made by Anthropic, and that your answers may be processed outside India. Our privacy policy lists the services that process data outside India.

4. Choose the name people see

   Your first name or a nickname. People you’re introduced to see it, and we don’t ask for your surname.

5. Take the live selfie check

   Follow the oval on screen for about 20 seconds. It shows you’re a real person and that you have only one account. We don’t keep the video. We keep a face pattern (numbers, not a photo) to stop duplicate accounts and to check that your photos are you.

   If the check can’t confirm it was you, you can try again, up to a daily limit. If a person needs to look at it, for example because your face looks very like another member’s, as with twins, you can appeal from that screen, and the app says “We’ll get back to you within 7 days.” See how verification works.

These answers are what matching runs on.

1. Answer short questions, one per screen

   The current draft set has 23 questions, and one of them only appears if you describe your gender in your own words. Only four are required: your gender, who you’d like to meet, the ages you’re open to and what you’re looking for right now. You can skip any other question, or tap “Finish later” and come back.

   Every question has a “Why we ask” note. Where you answer in your own words, you can type or tap the mic and say it: your phone turns speech into text, and we receive only the text, never the audio.

2. Say how much each preference matters

   For questions about the people we introduce you to, choose “Doesn’t matter to me”, “Nice to have”, “Important” or “Dealbreaker: only introduce people who fit”. You can have at most 3 dealbreakers.

   Dealbreakers are firm filters: we won’t introduce anyone who doesn’t fit one. Everything else only changes how people rank for you. A question you skip never counts against you, unless the other person has made it a dealbreaker.

3. Keep sensitive answers private

   Religion and caste or community are optional, and neither is ever shown on your card. They only count for matching if you choose “I’d prefer the same” or “Must be the same”, and the same goes for the other person. Your caste is never shown to anyone else, and neither is the part of Bengaluru you live in.

4. Add 2 to 6 photos

   At least one must show your face clearly, so we can check it matches your selfie. Every photo is checked automatically, and photos with explicit or intimate content (including kissing), violence, disturbing images or hate symbols are turned down.

   You choose which photos appear on your introduction card, and at least one of those must be a photo that matches your selfie. We re-save every photo, which removes hidden details such as where it was taken.

What you said is kept apart from what our AI took from it.

1. Review your profile

   Your profile keeps three things apart: “You told us” (your own answers, each with a Change button), “We interpreted this as” (notes from the AI conversation) and “From your import”. Every answer that could appear on your introduction card stays off it until you turn on “Show on my introduction card”.

2. Talk with the AI matchmaker, if you like

   This is optional, and your profile can be ready without it. The AI matchmaker asks a few follow-up questions, one at a time, only where the answer could change who we introduce you to, and never more than 12 in one conversation. You can tap “Skip”, ask “Why are you asking?”, say “That’s not quite right” or tap “Save and stop”.

   The screen says “You’re talking to an AI. A person still reviews every introduction.” The AI is instructed never to ask about your health, sexuality, religion, caste, finances or politics, and each question is checked for those topics before you see it. It never sees your name, phone number, photos or your answers about gender, who you want to meet, religion or caste. The conversation is deleted when it ends unless you turn on “Remember this conversation”. Read how our AI matchmaking works.

3. Or paste a summary from your own ChatGPT

   Also optional. Copy our prompt into your own ChatGPT, then paste back the summary it writes. It is text only, and the app asks you not to upload or paste your chat history. Our AI turns the summary into suggested notes, and we delete the pasted text straight away. An import adds to your answers; it never replaces the questions.

4. Confirm, correct or delete every note

   For each note, choose “That’s right”, “Not quite, edit” to put it in your own words, or “Delete this note”, and you can turn off “Use for matching”. “Delete everything from my import” removes an import in one tap. Nothing the AI suggests is used until you confirm it.

   Your own answers drive the matching rules and the match score; AI notes never change the score. Confirmed notes you leave on “Use for matching” are shown to the person who checks each introduction, so they understand you in your own words.

5. Tap “Start matchmaking”

   Nothing starts until you do. After that you can change any answer at any time, and changes apply straight away.

We look for people who fit you both ways. These are the statuses you can see.

• Building your pool: “There aren’t enough suitable people for you yet. We’re recruiting, and you won’t be charged until there are.”
• Looking for a good introduction: “We only introduce people when it looks like a good fit for both of you, so there’s no fixed schedule.”
• An introduction is being reviewed: “A person is checking a possible introduction before it reaches you.”
• You have an introduction: “Have a look and decide whether to say yes.”
• Matchmaking paused: “You won’t get new introductions until you resume. Chats you already have stay open.”

While your pool is building, Home can also show the preference narrowing your pool most. Changing it is entirely up to you.

A person then approves each one before it reaches you. Our AI doesn’t decide who you meet and doesn’t set the score: it writes the note on why we suggested each pair.

Currently you get at most 3 new introductions a week and at most 2 waiting for your answer at once. Those are limits, not a promise: some weeks there may be none.

How matching works, step by step

Until then, neither of you sees the other’s answer.

1. Answer within 7 days

   Choose “Yes, introduce us” or “No, thanks”. You decide on your own, and saying no needs no reason. If you say no, they aren’t told. If you haven’t both said yes within 7 days, the introduction expires.

2. They only find out if you both say yes

   If you say yes first, we wait for them. If they say yes too, you both see “You both said yes” and your chat opens. No setting, score or person can open a chat without both of you saying yes.

3. Talk in a private text chat

   Messages are text only and stay in the app, so you don’t need to share your phone number. Keep personal details private until you’re comfortable. Our AI never writes, reads or suggests your messages.

4. Ask for first-date ideas

   Under “Planning a first date”, tap “Suggest some ideas” for up to three ideas for public, daytime-friendly places, written by our AI from the answers you each share on your cards, with tips for staying safe. Nothing is sent to the other person.

5. Tell us privately how it went

   Once you’ve answered an introduction, you can tell us how relevant it felt and, after a mutual yes, whether you met. It is optional and never shown to the other person.

6. Report or block at any time

   You can report or block from any introduction or chat, and press and hold a message to report it. Reporting also blocks the person, they aren’t told who reported them, and you won’t be introduced again. Read more about privacy and safety.

We can’t promise a match, a date or a relationship.

If you’re a paying member and 21 days pass without an introduction, we send you an honest update on your pool: whether there are enough suitable people and which preference is narrowing it most. You can keep waiting, change your preferences, pause or leave, and the update never suggests a match is on its way. See what the update says.

Before membership, Home shows your status at any time and, while your pool is building, the preference narrowing it most. You pay nothing until there are enough suitable people for you. See when membership is offered and what it costs.

• Pausing stops new introductions, and you can resume whenever you like. Chats you already have stay open.
• Pausing doesn’t pause billing. To stop paying, cancel in your Google Play or App Store subscriptions (see how billing and cancelling work).
• Delete your account under Account, in Privacy and my data. Deletion starts straight away, and the app shows what is deleted, what we must keep (such as safety reports and billing records) and why. Deleting doesn’t cancel a store subscription.
• You can also get a copy of your data from the same screen.

How to delete your account and data